Accountability
Content Notice – emotional abuse, including some relating to sexual activity; ableism; gaslighting; alcoholism; mention of physical violence. Context and…
Who am I?
I am The Bobbu. I was named Mr Matthew John Rainford by my parents. Like many things placed upon me…
Live Action Roleplay
My axe raised, shield before me, chainmail strapped on tight; I stride into the fray. I see my friend across…
Stop Saying Feminism is Good for Men
I’ve been seeing a lot of posts recently along the lines of “feminism helps men too.” That makes me sad….
For Want Of A Sad Song – a polyamory poem
A polyamory poem: There are no mournful tunes of how to weep After loosing one who next to you would sleep…
Charlie, Ahmed and Guns
I am hearing so many people arguing on one side or the other of the “religion is bad” argument at…
Dear Straight Pride UK – go fuck yourselves
Update 18:08 GMT My web hosting company, the splendid Site5, agreed that the DMCA notice was not valid. No action will…
I Don’t Want A Manic Pixie Dream Girl (Any More)
Once upon a time, I was a young man in his prime who spent his time constantly on the look-out…
A Very Short Story
John somehow knew he was the main character in a story – but he had a dreadful, gnawing feeling that…
I Have Regrets (and that’s ok)
“Live with no regrets,” the saying goes. It is a very silly saying, in my not-so-humble opinion. You see, I…
My Mental Malady
I believe I’ve mentioned that I suffer from Bipolar Personality Disorder. I use the word “suffer” today, because it feels…
Hoopy Frood and Proud
The 25th of May was a very special day for geeks everywhere. Not only was it towel day – it…
Challenging Challenges (part 2)
Take a deep breath, and let’s make the dive into debating territory. What other arguments are there that I hear…
My Granddad
My granddad passed away recently. He was one of the few people in my family who I liked and respected…
Sex Education in a Time Warp
Originally published in The Skinny Sometimes I get up in the morning, read the news, and wonder which century I…
Night
Written at 2:30am I love the night time. Specifically, I find 4:30am to be the most perfect of times. It…
No Rings on Us
My partner and I (the one who lives locally, at any rate) have been in a relationship for over two and…
Watered Down Bullshit
Why do people seem to want to cling on to magical potions, and supernatural, inexplicable hocus-pocus cures? Yep, today I’m…
Lets Legalise More Love
The issue of marriage equality is filling our newspapers, our airwaves and our screens right now. The UK government has…
A Happy Life of Apathy
Apathy has long had a bad reputation as a response to events, but to me that reputation is an ill…
Challenging Challenges (part 1)
We polyamorous and other ethically non-monogamous folks are used to being criticised, challenged and questioned about our love styles. It’s…
The Obtuseness of Obscenity (Don’t Protect Me)
Obscenity has been a hot topic of late – just last month Michael Peacock was found unanimously not guilty of…
Where Did You Learn To Argue?
I am a philosopher. I studied philosophy from a young age; particularly religious philosophy & theological discussions, because I was…
Eating Out
When people think about food and sex, they tend to go down limited avenues of thought. There’s Aphrodisiac Avenue, where…